THE LATE BLOOMER AND HIS “WINS”…
Q.) How does a Late Bloomer overcome the lack of motivation, the wall, and the disadvantages associated with being a Late Bloomer? In other words: How does he bloom?
A.) He absolutely must get a few “wins” under his belt.
The main reason a guy will become a Late Bloomer is that he has lacked the character to finish difficult tasks. That characteristic was not built earlier in life. Such is not the case with the early bloomer. Therefore, when a Late Bloomer looks back on his years and sees more than a few unfinished tasks, he can easily be convinced that he will almost never finish anything. He has racked up too many failures to believe otherwise. He must begin to get “wins” under his belt.
Getting “wins” is not about gaining confidence. Confidence can be false. Anyone can talk themselves into being confident even when they ought not to be. However, confidence will be the by-product of getting “wins”. This is about building the character to get beyond the wall that has stopped him so many times in the past. This is about being able to look back and see more than failures. This is about being able to see accomplishments. A Late Bloomer absolutely must be able to take on a difficult task without having to be haunted by past failures. The more “wins” a Late Bloomer has, the more apt he is to finish a task. He sees that he has in the past. He knows his character has been built. He sees the wall for what it is: a paper wall that is no longer insurmountable, but thin, and brittle. He has a bit more motivation to push on simply because he now knows he has before and can again.
But how does the Late Bloomer begin this trek?
- Start small
- Get Motivated
- Talk about your task
- Ask for help
-Finish the task
-Start all over again
The next several articles will explain these in more detail.
(I would do that now…But Late Bloomers typically don’t like to read lengthy articles.)
posted by Danny Kaye @ 8:52 AM
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Are late bloomers mostly men? How can you call a mother who sacrifized 20 years of her life to raise children and help her husband to succeed a Late Bloomer? So, what is she called? Good mothers and wives always put off their education and careers till they are older. I always chose jobs to suit our family lifestyle and my husband always pursued one career and he is now making $ 400 a day in his trade at the age of 68. I am still going to university at 57, and even now I feel guilty if I dont grow vegetables or provide healthy food for him, because he has a heart disease. I think women are forced to be Late Bloomers even if they don't want to be. Have you ever thought about that?
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Yours truly Louise.
Sorry I made a mistake I wanted to say: What can you call a mother...
Louise
"What can you call a mother who sacrifized 20 years of her life to raise children and help her husband...?"
Louise, I call her loving, dedicated, and motivated.
Late Bloomers are certainly not mostly men. I use the male gendered pronoun simply because I am a male and these articles are mostly based on my experiences. I freely confess I am not Politically correct, but I am also not insensitive to the fact that there are female Late Bloomers.
From the sounds of it...you are not a Late Bloomer. If my guess is correct, you made a conscious decision to postpone your own education to serve others. That shows a bit more thought than the Late Bloomer would excercise.
I did realize after reading your comments that not all of the posts were available to be read. I changed the code so now even the earliest posts may be read. If you have the time, feel free to read those as well. They explain more clearly my fundamental thoughts about Late Bloomers.
Thanks for coming by. You are welcome anytime.
Jeff
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